This morning I was awakened to the sound of children emptying the dishwasher and vacuuming the living room. An hour later, I am drinking coffee alone on the porch while they are making their beds.
Balancing a large blended family has never been easy. It is even more difficult now that we are in a house that is about 1/2 the size of what we need. But, we’ve always made it work by trying to keep to a schedule and having some sort of “behavior reward system.” This summer, the system needed to be updated because of Dad’s crazy work schedule and to help save on finances. So far, it’s working brilliantly! Here’s what I’ve done…
After I pulled an all-nighter putting together the new “behavior reward system,” all five kids woke up to the new system explained in this letter:
We have a NEW AND IMPROVED BEHAVIOR REWARD SYSTEM! Here’s how it works…
Each of you have a jar below. Throughout the day you will have opportunities to earn beads to put in your jar. Every weekend we will have a REWARD DAY! You must have earned at least 30 beads throughout the week to get your REWARD. You must earn your beads AND KEEP THEM! Yes, you can lose your beads and miss out on REWARD DAY, so let’s not do that!
You automatically CAN earn 6 beads a day! 6 beads multiplied by 7 days is how many, Addy!? 42, correct! You can earn 6 beads a day by following the schedule and taking care of your duties during the day. Beads will be awarded for:
- 1 BEAD in the morning for brushing your teeth, making your bed, and cleaning up your room BEFORE MOM CHECKS YOUR ROOM IN THE MORNING. This means you will have to work together as a team!
- 1 BEAD for doing a good job on your morning chores without having to be reminded.
- 1 BEAD for being quiet during rest time. You can read, write in your journal, or take a nap!
- 1 BEAD for getting your schoolwork done quickly and for staying on task!
- 1 BEAD for doing a good job on your evening chores without having to be reminded.
- 1 BEAD for brushing your teeth and getting into bed on time!
You may also be rewarded with beads during the day for being kind, being generous, being helpful, or doing extra chores without having to be asked! Mom and Dad have the power to give beads whenever they want!
You will LOSE beads for:
Not treating others how you want to be treated.
Having the most misplaced stuff in the basket at the end of the day.
… Or doing anything else to be a brat!
ANYONE CAUGHT STEALING OR SNEAKING BEADS WILL LOSE ALL BEADS AND REWARDS FOR AT LEAST 2 WEEKS AND BE GROUNDED FROM ELECTRONICS AND TELEVISION FOR 5 DAYS MINIMUM.
Not only do you have the opportunity for a REWARD each week, once you earn 50 beads you will get to choose a BONUS REWARD FROM THE PINS ON THE BOARD! The REWARDS are going to be awesome and you don’t want to miss out!
YOU GUYS ARE THE BEST KIDS ON THE PLANET!!! I’m so lucky and blessed to be your Mom.
Love you tons,
The jars are super-simple, made from some random Mason jars I had in storage:
The Bonus Reward Tickets can be whatever you want. The key is to keep them fun, but easy and cheap for Mom & Dad so you can stay consistent with the system! Some of ours are: Out to Lunch with Dad, Redbox DVD Rental, 1 Hour of Uninterrupted Time on the XBox, etc. You can even download the template I created here: kid_reward_system_tickets.
Behavior Reward Day will be different each week. I don’t have them all planned out yet and the kids are helping me come up with ideas. I’m letting them help with ideas so they can work toward the reward THEY WANT. Some reward days will be Bruster’s Ice Cream Parlor, the movies, and a backyard campout.
I’ll say it again… the KEY IS CONSISTENCY. This requires a little work on the part of the parent, but it is well worth the reward! I can attest to that as I write in peace with my “Maurader’s Map” coffee cup… MISCHIEF MANAGED! :)