A few people have asked if the Kids Behavior Reward System was a success or failure. So, now that my house is a little more peaceful, I thought I would post a recap.
First of all, the new glorious reward system was a lot harder to stick with than I expected it to be. This kind of surprised me because when it comes to my kids and my kitchen pantry Im pretty organized and strict. (Don’t judge me by the rest of my house.) Once the “newness” of the behavior rewards kicked in, it was really difficult to stay on top of the bead system. It was also a little difficult to keep track of earning and losing beads when we were out of the house or on vacation. All in all, it worked pretty well, but I will probably revise the system for next summer.
One of my favorite moments in life came from the Kids Behavior Reward System though. Let me tell you about the first time we had two little boys lose beads for fighting and miss out on reward day. Reward day that week was to go to Bruster’s for ice cream. This is a family (and especially a Mom) favorite. Bruster’s Ice Cream is simply ridiculously good. Like, I love it so much I actually looked into buying a franchise. Anyhoo… it was a big deal that the boys lost out on Bruster’s. It was much, much worse for me and Dad though. I finally understand that old saying of so many parents “It hurts me more than it hurts you.” We want our children to be happy and denying them the best ice cream on the planet and making them watch as their siblings (and their mom) scarfed down waffle cones was almost too much to bear.
As it turns out, it WAS too much to bear for our other three kids. On the way home, hidden in the back of the minivan, all 3 of the older kids offered licks of their ice cream to the 2 boys that lost out. One boy fell to temptation, but Big Will sadly shook his head and refused their offers on 3 different occasions. Mind you, if someone hadn’t slipped up at dinner I probably never would have found out. I don’t know about you, but I don’t know many adults that have that kind of integrity.
Dad and I were so proud of him that I actually shed tears. Real, big, momma-sized tears. We let him choose one of the big rewards off of the reward board. Guess what he chose? Sleepover and Movie Night with Mom while Dad was on duty all night. MORE BIG, FAT TEARS! Love that kid…
So, I have to say that even though the Kids Behavior Reward System wasn’t as flawless as I had hoped, it was SPECTACULAR. Our kids learned some important lessons this summer. They know better than they ever have that making good decisions will make your life better and that having integrity and a good heart will always be rewarded in this family.